Happiness...5 steps on 'How to be a happy person'

Dear friends,

I am excited about 2010 and this new decade I am sure that you are too. I have created some new videos on my festivesuccess channel on youtube - check them out . My videos are intended to help you to push for success, achieve your goals and become happier in life :-)
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Below is my latest video on Happiness - 5 steps on how to be a happy person.



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Many thanks

Queen Chioma

5 Steps to Overcome Anxiety

Dear friends,

Anxiety is a bummer right? That's what many of you might be thinking, but you can have freedom from anxiety by strategies such as having a healthy diet, positive self-talk and keeping hydrated, the list is endless. I have listed some effective ways below on how you can overcome anxiety and feel the freedom that you aspire to have. Good luck.

1) Drink water and stay hydrated: Drink 6-8 cups of water a day, make sure that you are drinking lots, stay hydrated as this will ease and refresh you, our bodies are made up of 90% water so we need plenty of fluids. Dehydration increases feelings of irritability, anxiety and stress. Joyce Meyer says 'when you think it drink it' so when you think of water go get a glass and drink some. Carry a bottle of water with you daily.

2) Cast your care on God: The bible says that we should pray about everything with thanksgiving and cast our anxieties and cares on the Lord because he cares for us. Get in to a habit of throwing your worries and burdens on God as he is big enough to carry them :-) do what you can do to sort out your problems and give the rest to him and let him take care of your needs. Trusting God is the key to overcoming anxiety. Believe that he has a great plan for your life and refuse to worry.

3) Have a healthy diet: Make sure you eat your 5 fruit and veg a day (Leak is a good veg that reduces anxiety, eat more leak). Drink 6-8 cups of water a day and have a healthy diet. Avoid caffiene, chocolate, fizzy drinks and too much sugary foods as these foods and drinks make anxiety worse. Herbal teas and camomile tea is very good and can cause you to feel calm and relaxed. Watch out for the foods that make you feel better and avoid the foods that tend to make you feel bad.

4) Do something fun and relaxing: Have fun and enjoy yourself, don't take life or yourself too seriously. Do something that you enjoy or that you find relaxing to do daily i.e. watch a feel good dvd, have a nice relaxing hot bath with bubbles and put candles around the room, go and play a game of bowling with friends, do something adventurous like travelling, play a board game with your children, go shopping, get a massage. Think of things that you can do that will uplift you and make you feel really good. Laughter is the best medicine!! it cures worries, anxiety, health problems and increases endophines those feel good chemicals that makes us happy and at ease - so make it a habit to have fun and laugh more, be like a child at times, they tend to laugh at least 20 times more than adults laugh that's for sure.

5) Exercise and Keep Fit: Have a good exercise plan, this should be 30 minutes of exercise a day or exercise for 3-4 days a week. Make it a habit to make exercise a part of your weekly routine. Exercise decreases stress, relieves anxieties and it increases those endorphines which make you feel good so exercise your way to freedom. Make your exercise fun i.e. go swimming, go bowling, dancing, aerobics. It is also helpful to exercise with a friend as your friend can help to motivate you to reach for your fitness goals.

Wait theres more...check out my 5 additional tips below:

1) Be positive and practice being a positive person, be around positive people and you will feel better.
2) Always believe that all things will work out for the best. Say 'Everything is gonna be alright often', 'There is a light at the end of the tunnel', 'I can cope', 'I am loved and cared about', 'I can make it', 'I can take it' serveral times a day.
3) Remember times that you have overcome in your past to remind you that you have made it before and you can make it again.
4) Pratice deep breathing...breathe in count then count to three then breathe out, do this three times, deep breathing decreases heart rate which over time will help to alleviate your anxiety and reduce panic and fear.

5) Do things one moment at a time and don't think too much about tomorrow just live life one day at a time.

Blessings.

Queen Chioma :-)

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6 Tips on how to become a more Interesting

Dear friends,

I read a really interesting article the other day on how 'How to be more interesting' it was so interesting that I have to share some tips with you as I know that we all want to shine in some way :-)

My 6 top tips are:

1) Make things with your hands: Maybe bake a cake, learn to sow or knit, make jewellery, start painting. People who can do something with their hands always appear more interesting as its a very creative skill to be able to make things.


2) Be more secretive: Create some mystery in your life at times, it's ok to tell people some stuff about your life but it is also good to hold back and keep people guessing.

3) Create an online blog: You may be thinking that this contradicts with point (2) not really as it's good to share some of your interesting experiences in life in a balanced way. Stay in touch with friends and family by setting up a blog account. Share pictures, write articles or blogs. People who write online always come across as interesting especially when they have something good to say. Maybe you could even write about something different i.e. write about films you watch, places that you visit, or books you read...whatever interests you get writing this will make you more interesting.

4) Learn to say hello and goodbye in several languages: Languages can be so much fun. I love Italian...[hello = Pronto, Ciao, Salto], [Good bye = Arrivederci, Saluto]. Maybe you could even go one step further and learn a new language i.e. Spanish, French, German and master the language. All of a sudden everyone will begin to think you are cooler than you were before (lol) and you will be able to put this on your CV which will make your CV stand out from the crowd and it will be so much fun for you to speak with people who speak the same language.

5) Interview one really fascinating person per week: Make it a habit to have a chat with someone who you find really interesting at least one person per week and find out what makes them special, discover there interests and talents and by learning this will inspire you to become more interesting.

6) Go somewhere completey different: Visit places like museums, art galleries, a cathedral, a field, go to the docklands or a lake, capture a beautiful view and it will make you more interesting as you will be doing something different from your usual routine.





Home work: write down three things that you will do to become more interesting i.e. learn an instrument, visit a museum and start an onlnine blog

Good luck!! Go for it :-) xxx

Dare to dream and set yourself a challenge

Dear friends,

Where do you see yourself this time next year?? What places do you dream of going? I would love to move to Hollywood one day (or at least visit there), I would love to have my own book published. Dreams are often big....I dream of Hollywood. It's the most beautiful place in the world to me and I would love to be there one day, it may seem impossible but it could actually happen. Many people have achieved the impossible so why should we restrict ourselves and aim low? If we want our dreams to come true or if we want to at least have something to strive for we must know what we want and work towards it.

I am quite inspired by katie Price (believe it or not) she is the author of 32 books and this clearly shows me that she doesn't waste her time, she is straining forwards to the good things that are ahead and works to make the impossible achieveable. She has already run one Marathon and will run the next one in New York this November, I am very impressed, she hasn't allowed her recent broken marriage stop her from being a success, she is real about how she feels but yet still since then she has achieved bringing out her book Saphire and is now embarking on that challenge of running the Marathon as I mentioned above and also she is bringing out a new book called 'Standing Out' on fashion...people would of thought that she would be at home crying and depressed after what had happened but she has proved that she is a go-getter that must be on top of her game and her career, I am not saying that she is perfect and has made no mistakes but she doesn't dwell on her weaknesses and neither should we. I really love Katie.

Homework: Set yourself a challenge that you will be where you dream of being this time next year...i.e. new career, move out of home, new image, new car, learn a language, complete your course, start your own business, loose weight, cut off bad friends, get married....write down where you'd like to be in 1 year time and work towards it daily until you see your goal achieved :-)

Wish you all the best in your adventure of success, you are wonderful.

Chioma xx

4 Keys to Overcoming Anger in a healthy way

Dear Friends,

Let's talk about ANGER today as we all have anger about something or another. Let's face it we have all been hurt, had some rough challenges and been mistreated by those who we trusted and believed in the most. Maybe you lost your job and you feel that it's unfair or even worse maybe you are in a situation where your boyfriend has cheated on you and you feel very much betrayed or perhaps you always find yourself getting angry over the fact that your sister always wears your clothes without your permission - either way anger must be dealt with in a healthy way so below I have typed up some tips on how you can deal with anger in a healthy way.


1) Forgive = The first step to overcoming anger is to forgive the person who has hurt you. That may seem impossible as you might say to me 'Chioma if you only know what that person has done to me then you wouldn't expect me to forgive them' well I would answer you by saying 'I totally understand how you feel but holding resentment in your heart will never solve the problem and it will only affect you. Joyce Meyer an international preacher often says 'hurting people hurt people, whoever hurt you probably has more problems than you and why should you sit around and be mad at someone who is out having a good time...your smarter than that' I suggest that you forgive..forgiveness cleanses your soul and gets rid of that bitter water. Always remember that someone has had to forgive you too so be generous with mercy too. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to have to take back a boyfriend wo cheated and it doesn't mean that you have to be bestfriends with a friend that stabbed you in the back...you can decide that you won't be that close to the person if you don't think it's healthy but the main thing is letting go of the hatred, bitchiness and hatred.

2) Get Active = What do you do that makes you feel better? Is it dancing? Is it singing? Is it writing? Maybe you could set up a blog and start an online journal and post poems or something intriguing like that. This will be a step forward in helping you to overcome your anger. Boxing is also a great way to release pented up emotions of anger. Other than that speak to friends, family about how you feel as they can be a good shoulder to lean on and offer you with some good old healthy advice. Do something positive to express your anger in a healthy way.

3) Shake it off = At one stage or another you must finally come to the stage where you realise that you must get over it, that what has happened is in the past...let it go, shake it off. Shake off that oldness and press forwards to the good things that lie ahead. Make a decision that you will not let it bother you anymore but that you will be a good person and happy and not bitter which leads in to point 4.

4) Succeed even more than ever before = It is easier said than done but I would venture to say that we should always aim to 'be better in life and not bitter'. Don't let what someone has done to you turn you into a sour person but rather decide to be the best you that you can be. Let your anger be your reason to work harder, let this anger make you want success even more, be passionate about success, prove people wrong who have mocked you, prove that you can be a success story. Katie Price has said that 'Success is the best form of revenge' I agree with that. Never do evil but overcome and conquer evil with good as the bible says (easier said than done but in time you will be able to do this). Success, success, success get on with making your dreams and goals a reality then you will not have anymore time to be angry as you will be too busy celebrating your achievements!!


Good luck, YOU CAN and YOU WILL overcome anger :-)

I love you and support you!!

Chioma xxxx

Overcoming Self-Doubt

Dear wonderful and festive friends,


One of your biggest threats to your success and confidence is to doubt yourself. It can be odd as I am sure that many of you believe in yourself but then you have those days where you think that it is impossible for you to achieve success or your goal. You need to cast off the self-doubt and get more certain, confident and sure of yourself. Affirm to yourself in the face of doubt that you can do it by saying it and thinking I can and I will!!

Maybe you are imagining failure...but you need to cast down those wrong thoughts. The bible talks about casting down imaginations and every high and lofty thing that exalts itself against the true knowledge of God. It also says in the book of proverbs that 'As a person thinks in his heart so is (he or so does he become)' so If you think failure you will fail, if you think success then you are bound to succeed. Begin to visualise your success today! Make it a habit to say 'I am a success', 'I am a winner', 'I am a valuable person' 'God has a great plan for my life' and think positive thoughts about yourself over and over until you believe without any doubt that you can make it happen.

Homework for the week: Buy a scrap book and cut out all the pictures of the things you want i.e. images of success, an image of a woman or a man that looks confident, clothes, a car that you want, your dream holiday...basically whatever images represent your success and when ever you feel that your doubting. Look at the scrap book and get that courage to believe that you can do it.

Above all never give up....rome was not built in a day so don't despair if you don't become a success overnight!! It will happen just keep working hard :-)

5 ways on how to feel Fantastic and Wonderful

1) Smile: When you smile you release endorphins in your body which creates that feeling of happiness, so I suggest that you embrace a smile and do it often. Smiling makes us feel good and it creates a positive buzz when you smile at others..we are showing that we are friendly, you never know...just by smiling at someone you might meet someone who will take you higher in life or make you feel good, they might pay you a compliment. I have found that I have met some really great people in my life who have blessed me tremendously and it all started with a smile. People who are generally moody, unfriendly and cranky do not really get that fair in life and often don't have many friends so I suggest some good healthy friendliness in your personality. So lets begin to shake off the gloom and start smiling again.

2) Do more of the things that you enjoy and love:
What do you enjoy doing in your life? What are you good at, what makes you laugh and feel great? Is it singing, dancing, watching comedy, spending time with your big sister, travelling, meeting new people, playing your guitar? Whatever it is do more of that...I love singing so I have times where I just sing in the bathroom for at least 30minutes, I belt and sing all songs that I love and it always makes me feel great and uplifts me. So i.e. if you love ice-skating then get your skates on. When you do what you love to do more in your life then, you begin to feel more fantastic and wonderful:-)


3) Be a blessing to others: Joyce Meyer an international preacher says 'Get your mind off yourself and get busy being a blessing to others' I agree with this principle as sometimes we can get too caught up thinking about ourselves and our lives...instead of self-indulging - every day look for someone to bless. Think of how you can make another person's life better..especially someone who is worse off than you or someone who has been so good to you. For example maybe buy your mum some flowers, write a thank you note to your best friend and post it to her house as a surprise, write a poem to your boyfriend telling him how much you love him, give some of your clothes to charity or even apologise and make peace with someone that your upset. You will be so happy to see how good it feels to help others. When you set mind to help others you will feel fantastic and wonderful especially when you see the smile that you have put on other peoples faces. [Tip: Even if they do not act grateful or if they do not seem to respond in a positive way...don't despair keep up this principle from time to time as your reward will come but it may come in a different way, or through a different person or in a different time in your life].

4) Prune your life: If you want to feel wonderful and fantastic then you may need to cut off some bad habits or let go of some people of things that are not making you happy...if you want to feel better write a list of 10 things that make you feel unhappy and choose three of them to take out of your life. Example (1) Maybe your fed up of how much time you spend on the phone and want to spend more time with your family and relax more - a good way to get limit this would be to go on a phone diet i.e. do not answer calls after 6pm-8pm and switch your phone off by 10pm latest. Maybe you have friends that only talk about problems and that's it...well you may need to get around more positive people, maybe you'd like to exercise more to make you feel more motivated...go for it :-) make small changes for great results. You will feel fantastic and wonderful when you have more time to do positive things in your life and when you let go of those things that frustrate you.

5) Dress to impress: Start looking after you! Your amazing and you need to shine at work, at home, when you go out and even at the gym :-) What colours bring out your eyes and complexion? Wear more of those colours...I find that the colours green and turquoise really suit me...people always tend to compliment me when I wear these colours so I like to wear bright clothes and catchy nice make-up often. Also what do you wear that makes you look boring and old...you need to make a change...I found that I when I was at home I got too comfortable wearing my cosy warm pale turquoise dressing gown in the house, I wore it everyday when I would get home from University - but it was starting to make me look boring so eventually I decided to throw the damn thing away. I want to look fresh and young at home not old and boring lol. Maybe you wear the most fabulous clothes when you go out the when you get in wear the oldest clothes in the world with holes and rips...throw those cheesy clothes away and start to dress to impress everywhere so that you will feel fabulous, confident, free and wonderful everywhere you go and get more of those nice the compliments that you deserve :-)

Good luck with feeling more fantastic and wonderful...enjoy it :-)
If you need any more tips on success, or would like to book coaching face to face, by phone, email or msn then feel free to contact me by e-mail me on festivesuccess@live.co.uk

Many thanks

Queen Chioma